Arnold’s dad passed away a little over 15 months ago and in the time since we have often been at a loss as to how to deal with Arnold’s mum. The problem is she was married for 55 years and despite knowing many people over that time they all tended to be her husband’s friends – from work, the Masonic…she never actually made any friends of her own and it has now come to the point where, since Arnold’s dad has gone, they no longer call around or phone up. It is strange really and quite common we are told – women of her generation who never went out to work, got married and basically stayed at home. She has never been independent, never even went shopping on her own. The big problem was she was becoming too clingy of her son and depending too much on him for her company – to the point of her starting to compete with her own grandchildren for his attention…not a good thing. But now she is widowed she has accepted at least that a huge gap is there and it needs to be filled so we went along to Age-Concern to see about joining her up for some activities at the local centre.
Okay so they offered the usual classes and activities, a woodwork class was making some safety products including a ramp for the front step and most of the class was female! – but the atmosphere was really good and we felt sure she’d enjoy the afternoon tea gatherings, she loves to talk and she especially loves tea and scones. She’s around there this afternoon and we are hoping that it can become a regular outing for her.
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I always enjoyed celebrating Australia Day when I was back home; you got the day off work, the sun always shone and the weather was fantastic. There’s plenty to do and heaps of festivities to go and see and participate in. Okay, there is always the usual naff ‘re-enactment’ of the 1788 landing at Port Jackson at one of the many beaches but they are generally accompanied by a sausage sizzle at the beach with free drinks and stuff to see and do.
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