Daily Archives: May 1, 2008

The McCann interview

Most of the United Kingdom would have watched the two hour documentary on Kate and Gerry McCann last night; unfortunately, in some cases, an unsympathetic and cynical United Kingdom. But I watched it and gained a whole new perspective of this whole situation.

I wont rattle on for too long about this as I think that more words have been written about the case of missing child Madeleine McCann, and her parents Kate and Gerry, than any other story in recent times. A year on and the story still raises questions and - if you read the comments on newspaper forums – temperatures and blood pressure.

Personally I have never read so many cynical remarks, so much drivel and so many self-righteous nonsence as I have seen over the past year. The lack of empathy for this couple is just astounding and the holier-than-thou loftiness of those who have never walked, and hopefully never will walk, in the shoes that Kate and Gerry wear each day makes you feel not only sick but angry as well.

No parents are perfect, none. As Kate stated, we all have our own ways of parenting – we all make decisions we feel are the right decisions based on the moment and the circumstances. The difference is fate does not deal out to all of us what it has dealt to Kate and Gerry. Any decision we make could feel correct at the time, and then go horribly wrong in a matter of seconds for some unknown and unseen reason. Denise Bulger in 1992 took her eyes of little James for barely two minutes in a very familiar environment and look what happened. Was it her fault…no.

Young Holly and Jessica were just out walking in the early evening; something I never allowed my kids to do at such an age – but then again they were in a familiar environment and their parents felt safe allowing them to do so. Was it their parent’s fault what happened to them…no.

I feel that Maddie was a victim of circumstance; I feel that if it had not been her that night it would have been another child, no doubt about it. We cannot live our lives expecting catastrophe to be lurking around every corner because it lies in places that you would never expect it to be. This is the tragedy with cases like these.

The McCanns only made one mistake; they trusted their own instincts and yet the unthinkable happened. Makes you question how anyone feels they have the right to judge them or condemn them when basically trusting our own instincts is all, as parents, we can ever really do.

Keep your eyes open…let’s find Madeleine. If you wish to add your support to Kate and Gerry’s quest to find their child then visit Find Madeleine.

(But if you are from the crackpot element, then go get a life instead)

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Anyone out there had laser eye surgery…?

I ask this because my son William, since he returned to Australia, has been to the doctor about his long term eye problem. Just briefly; he has always had what is called a squint in his right eye which means his eye can sometimes look a tiny bit turned inwards – but nothing that ever stood out too much enough to be that noticeable. You noticed it though if he sat for a photograph.

When he was five I took him to a specialist to enquire about surgery, or one of those eye patches which might have strengthened the eye muscle. But the doctor spelt out so many of the things that could go wrong during the surgery that I decided against it. He has lived with it and apart from the fact that he closes one eye to focus on something, say on the TV, it has never really bothered him. So I left it – I couldn’t bear the idea of the doctor botching up his lovely little face just to correct something which was basically cosmetic.

Okay, so a few weeks back during his Army medical it was picked up (the eye has been bothering him more of late) and he was sent off to a specialist where he was found to have kerataconus - which means the cornea is somewhat distorted. The treatment now is in the form of Lasik surgery and is done under local anaesthesia. But I’m still worried of course. The treatment is said to provide lifelong relief and results are 100% successful; if anyone out there has had personal experience of this treatment I would love to hear from you. Just to put a worried Mum out of her anxiety.

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The finishing touch for your bedroom

When you are renovating your bedroom why not stretch the budget as far as it will go and really add a touch of luxury to the atmosphere by indulging yourself in some beautiful and stylish bedding?

Personally I lean towards the minimalist style as I don’t like too much clutter but I love the look of a bed with big, chunky quilts and a collection of soft, fluffy pillows all arranged nicely to top it all off. Follow the link and have a browse through the collection; the items are not exactly suited to those on a tight budget but as they are all top quality and very durable splashing out on a set of the bedding could make for a really good investment as you should not need to replace anything for several years.

Until you want to change the ‘look’ again of course – but have a look at that photo; can’t you just see yourself snuggled back into those pillows with a good book? they look almost too good to lie on.

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